Bengali wedding rituals are almost similar to the other Hindu rituals. If you are getting married to a Bengali bride or a Bengali bridegroom, then understand the following Bengali wedding rituals carefully-
In this ritual, five or seven married women in the house grind turmeric with mortar and pestle and apply it on the groom’s body. The same ritual applies on the bride’s home as well. She will receive the turmeric and other elements from the groom’s house. Before applying the turmeric(haldi) paste on the bride, she needs to wear a new saree and Gamchha ( a cotton red and white coloured cloth).
Indeed, it is a very jovial wedding ceremony where the groom and his family members come to the bride’s house for the wedding wearing their best outfit similar to a Baraat.
After the groom and his family reaches the bride’s house, the mother and relatives of the bride come out and welcome the groom’s side with an earthen lamp, sprinkling trefoil, and rice kept in a bamboo winnow, etc. After that the bride groom’s family is served with food such as sweets, drinks by the bride’s family.
As the groom will sit in the altar, the elder male member of the family offers him new clothes. He is the one who does the ‘Sampradaan’. This means that the groom has to take responsibility of the bride from the moment.
Saat Paak and Subho Dristi:
This is the ritual where the brothers of the bride will take her in their hands and complete seven circles. Following this, the bride sits in the altar next to the groom. In this ritual, the bride and groom will looks at each other. Here, the bride will remove the betel leaves that she covers her face, symbolizing the beginning of togetherness.
After Subho Dristi, the couple exchange floral garlands at the altar and so the ceremony is known as Mala Badal (Mala means garland).
Yagna And Saptapadi
The couple sits in front of the sacred fire and recite special hymms after the priest. In this ritual, the couple makes seven circular rounds around the fire to solemnize the occasion.
This offering is made by the couple. The bride’s brother puts puffed rice (‘khoi’) in the hands of the bride while the groom stands close to her. Following this he holds her hands from the back and they together pour the ‘khoi’ into the fire.
Sindoor Daan and Ghomta
As this ritual is completed, the couple sits on their respective places in Chadnatolla and the groom will apply sindoor on the bride’s head where the hair parts. Then, the bride covers her head with a new Saree offered by the groom as a veil.
Bashi Biye: After taking the seven holy bows, the couple remains awake the whole night. The next morning, after sunrise, the newlywed couple goes back to the mandap. Here, they offer prayers and salutation to the sun god, in the presence of the priest. After completing that, the groom applies Sindoor on the head of his new Bride, using a gold ring or sometimes a gold coin. This ceremony, which take place after the actual wedding is called the bashibiye.
And apart from the above mentioned major rituals, there are more pre and post Bengali wedding rituals like Bidaai, Bodhu Boron, Bou Bhaat, etc.